Newness. The word that comes to mind when I think of 2017. A lot of changes came with that year for me. Changes that were warranted and changes that turned my world upside down. I graduated college and moved past that stage of my life, which was bittersweet but necessary. I think we get so wrapped up in the college bubble that we forget that there is a world outside of it, a very very real world. The things that I once worried about and even cared about were, in the bigger scheme of things, not of importance anymore. I also started my first career in 2017. Which brought me so much more than I ever could have imagined. I was surrounded by people that were very different from me, people that had so much life to tell. Some had been to college, some hadn’t. Some were in their twenties, while some were in their forties. These people gave my life so much more than I ever could have thought. I am naturally drawn to people anyways, so me asking 30 questions when I first meet you is totally and completely normal. I always talk about how much I just love and cherish people. Everyone has a story to tell and that is so beautiful to me. Working my first job gave me a better scope on life. I realized that things I complain about sometimes are literally minuscule on the scale of the real life problems that some people actually go through. I realized that some people just need time to open up. Not everyone wants to tell you their life story in a matter of five minutes after meeting you. You attract people by the energy you put out. I believe that so whole-heartedly. So if you genuinely want to take the time to get to know someone and learn all there is about them, they will sense that. It’s so important just to listen to people. Listening is one of the best things you can do for someone. I also learned that you never know what someone is going through. Life is hard. You have no idea how far just being kind to someone can go for them. I think people underestimate the power of kindness, and that is something that should never be underestimated. There is power in words, there is power in selfless actions. In the world we live in today, any light of positivity is so greatly needed and appreciated. I think that wherever you are, whoever you are surrounded by, you can make a difference by quite literally being kind. We are placed in moments on our life because either those people we are around need the type of person we are and vice versa. Newness and change can be scary and intimidating but beautiful things come out of it. New perspectives, new people, new moments to learn from. While 2017 gave me newness that I was more than excited to embrace, it also brought on endings that I never saw coming. Heartbreak is honestly one of the most painful things in life and while I wish I could press fast-forward and just get to the moment in my life where I am okay, I am cherishing the moments that I get to be by myself again. Being alone gives us the opportunity to love ourselves. I cringe at how cheesy that is but Ive learned these past few months that it is 100% true. It is so important to be able to love the person that you are. It is important to invest in yourself. It is important to be yourself. It is important to have self-love because without it, a relationship with someone else will only crumble. Self-love is hard. It is a process. It is something that you have to make a genuine conscious effort to do every single day. We are SO HARD on ourselves. Even writing this, I am sitting here thinking of all the negative things I have thought about myself today. Self-love starts from the inside. We have to be more kind with ourselves. The way we love ourselves is portrayed in the way we love others. And when we don’t have self-love, other areas of our lives suffer. And self-love doesn’t by any means mean that we should be happy 24/7.
It is ok to not be ok. I think that the world we live in today paints a very inaccurate picture on how lives actually are lived. We see snip-its of lives on Instagram. The good ones at that. And we assume that that person has it all together. And then one day when we see that they don’t, we are so quick to judge. Being human is hard. Things aren’t always rainbows and sunshine. And that is ok. As long as you have the people to talk to, to get you back on the right track, that is all that matters.
While 2017 brought on things that I felt, at the time, that I couldn’t handle, it also taught me that we are never given things too big that we can’t handle. It taught me so much about myself and others that I never expected. It may have not been top five years, it gave me a chance to grow as a person, a sister, a friend, and so much more. And growth is something that one can never pass up. We must always find the silver lining.